When A Mother Suffers During Motherhood, So Does A Child

When a mother suffers from her own situation as a mother, she is a victim of her own self. In this case, the mother cannot get out of her suffering or separate love from pain, and this is a situation that is very harmful.

For the welfare of the child, it is appropriate to cease to be a suffering mother, whatever the circumstances or cause of this suffering. Suffering is not love, and what is associated with the child would need to be done with the most impeccable love that is possible.

For the sake of your child, you must learn to be a happy, prosperous, encouraging, funny, and positive mother, and should never be accepting or submissive to your own suffering.

There is one unhappy child for every affected mother

Not all women know how to take on the role of mother for themselves. Many believe that loving a child is that I mourn for him and suffer because something might happen to the child tomorrow, for example.

Women who regret their children for a year because of some physical or mental characteristic, or who are irritated by their own financial needs, frustrations, or unattainable desires, end up hurting their children and infecting them with pain.

Children have very good emotional abilities. They always know when something bad is happening, there is a problem or someone is suffering.

Children of mothers who feel and behave this way will grow up feeling “less than others”  —they feel that there is something wrong with them and that they will not be able to achieve their goals.

What causes the mother’s suffering?

There are many reasons why a mother suffers during her motherhood. One thing this mourning may be based on may be the child’s mental and physical injuries.

Reasons may include:

• The fact that a woman has suffered from emotional rejection or physical and psychological abuse in her own childhood.
• He must have sacrificed his youth and dreams to take care of a surprise child.
• She has been despised and rejected by her husband for years.
• He is afraid of getting rid of his little ones as they grow up.

These are all examples of things that can make a mother suffer.

How can you stop being a suffering mother?

To be a different kind of mother, or at least try to avoid this state of emotional life, consider the following guidelines:

• Never use words like “pity,” “may coward,” “failure,” “incompetent,” or “rejected” when talking about your child, and especially not when you think he or she can hear.

• Don’t pity him. We all have our shortcomings, our mistakes, our illnesses and also our unfulfilled dreams.
• Take care of your child, but don’t worry too much. The life that awaits him is full of setbacks that he must face – whether he wants to or not. It makes no sense for you to worry about something that might happen. It’s better to prepare him and yourself if your child even has to face what you’re so afraid of.
• Love him and make it clear to him that love is joy, a sense of satisfaction, well-being, optimism…
• Be bold and impressive when difficulties arise. Your child deserves the best in life, and he also deserves the best you can offer. Aim for it as a mother. When he makes a mistake, gets sick, or is afraid, he needs you the most. So these are the least suitable times to get depressed, turn your back, and put the problem forward to someone else in your family.

• Don’t pretend you will endlessly be the center of his attention and his attachment character because you fear he will soon grow up and reject you. Avoid raising your child in an environment that makes you seem like the most important person.

Even for the sake of your children, take care of your mental health and be happy

Mom, this is something you can’t ignore if you want to leave behind suffering in your motherhood: taking care of your own mental health and the well-being of your emotional life.

He ceases to be a slave who postpones his own dreams until tomorrow, which never comes. Don’t be the one who takes care of others around the clock, but who can’t get into just about anything in their personal or professional life. Don’t be the one who doesn’t leave home except for a shop, who doesn’t play sports and who doesn’t spend time with their own friends – and so on.

A self-sacrificing mother is the mother who is most likely to sink into depression. Not only does it hurt herself, but the depression greatly grates other family members — a family that needs this woman so badly.

So be happy for your own child and yourself – be as happy and experience a feeling of fulfillment as possible.