My Lap Is Your Shelter And You’re Never Too Big For It

Whether you are three months old, three years old or thirty, my lap is always your shelter – a home where you can grow up loved, valued and protected. My lap is your shelter and always here for you when you need love and affection or a pillow to lean on in difficult times.

Certainly more than once every mother and father has heard it said that a child should not be held too much in his arms or become a pampered person. This sentence is based on some prevailing belief, but we question it.

Of course, it is important that the child has boundaries and a balanced life. Contrary to what many may think, a baby is meant to live its first stages close to its parents. Nothing can be more beneficial or stimulating. Parental arms bring constant security to the child and stimulate him. And that’s exactly what a baby’s developing brain needs.

Some studies show that the psychoaffective development of children raised in an orphanage is so poor that they may even be traumatized. Much of it suffers from disorders that make it difficult to connect with other people.

It has even been found that babies raised in the worst orphanages are not able to cry. These kids have found that their crying doesn’t matter. It’s not about whether these kids are well eaten or have a dry diaper. What they long for is embrace and comfort. Lack of the above can cause, for example, low self-esteem, difficulty concentrating, and slowed cognitive development.

By growing in my arms you will become strong

When we face the tragic fates of abandoned babies in Asia and Africa, for example, we remember the importance of creating a strong, healthy and secure bond with the child. This relationship is vital, and it is something we should nurture and promote, especially during the first three years of a child’s life. This time is particularly important for psychomotor, attachment, psychosocial, and brain development.

For this reason, arms play an important role in the upbringing of a child. The beneficial and holistic effect of holding a child in your arms is truly marvelous.

Growing in the arms of mother and father improves the development of the child

The natural position of a small child is to have the back arched, in the form of the letter C. In this position, the fetus lives in its mother’s womb, and it is also the most natural position for the baby during its first months of life.

• Whether the baby is carried in a sling, sling or lap, it must be remembered that his feet must be above his buttocks, leaving the child in the so-called frog position.
• Holding a baby in your arms has many qualities that promote a child’s social, attachment, and communicative development. The baby responds to his parent’s smile, words, and touch.
• According to some studies, holding a baby in abundant arms reduces the risk of colic and reflux disease.
• If the baby is kept too much in the same lying position, he or she may develop plagiocephaly, or oblique skull.

My lap is always your protection, no matter what age you are

Children grow up fast, as all parents know. Yesterday the child slept next to the parent and today he is already going to school, sitting in the front seat of the car and preparing for a holiday trip together with his friends.

All of this is good and positive and what parents want for their child – that the child is free, strong, mature, happy and makes others happy as well. However, it is good to remember that no one is too old to need a hug.

Embraces given by mother and father are not marked with an expiration date. Parents’ lap is open both on ordinary weekdays and when the child needs a lap most. The mother’s and father’s lap offers the child a return home — a reminder of how much the child is loved, how proud he or she is, and how important he or she is. A child is a dear, perfect, and precious gift that life has given to parents.

Parents, therefore, should not believe those who constantly say how excessive embracing a child will spoil a child. Namely, the truth is that if you don’t let your child live on this source of emotional nourishment every day, he or she will be robbed of something he or she desperately needs.

Raising a child is not just about guaranteeing the child’s physical well-being. It is also important to nourish the child’s emotions, mind, brain and heart.