Keep Your Promises To Your Child

Keep the promises you make to your child, and don’t promise him something just because he’s happy about it.

A child’s memory is interesting because it is able to store information very selectively. For example, a child may forget to put their shoes on their feet when they leave for school, but remember how you promised to take him for ice cream a week ago. How is this possible? How can a child show such precision to the things that interest him most?

To understand a child, it is important for us to understand that keeping a promise is far more important to a child than to an adult. It is important for a child to grow and develop in an environment full of confidence. If a child is promised something and the promise is not redeemed, the child is confused and disappointed.

When we don’t keep the promises we make to a child, the spiritual world of this one experiences a bump – and so does our own trustworthiness, as the child perceives parents as unreliable people. Of course, no one wants to be in such a situation.

Next, we present four important perspectives on why it is important for every parent to keep the promises they make to their child.

Why is it important that you keep your promises to your child?

1. You modify the internal integrity of the child

You’ve probably heard of Bandura’s theory of social learning. It is also called model learning theory, according to which a child learns for the most part by imitating a model, such as his or her own parents.

• Through model learning, the child creates a foundation for his or her sociality as well as for how he or she understands the world.
• If a child finds that his parents keep their promises, he becomes an internally healthy person. The child learns to understand that keeping promises creates satisfaction for all parties and is worth learning.

2. You show the child that he is important

You love your child above all else, but do you show your love to the child? The young child does not yet understand that parents spend their time outside the home to provide their child with the best, to ensure this well-being, food, and education.

The child only takes into account that the parent is absent. For this reason, the best way to show love to a child is to make the child feel important. 

• Allow the child to watch his favorite movie with him.
• Promise the child that you will go to the park with him after school.

• Assure your child that as soon as you return home from work, you will spend time with him.
• Promise your child that even if you get home late from work, you will read him an evening tale before going to bed.
• Promise your child to prepare his or her favorite food for dinner.

All of the above promises are ways to spend time with a child. Spending time with a child shows the child that he or she is the best and most important thing in your life.

3. You show a model for building quality relationships

The happiest and most rewarding relationships are based on trust, authenticity, and certainty.

By setting an example for your child that the promises made are kept, you are at the same time showing your child how rewarding it is that the people you love are worthy of trust, they do not lie, and they are the pillars of everyday life.

This will also help build stronger friendships as well as more mature relationships in the future. You will find that by keeping your promises, you are educating your child for life. There is no more important task than this! 

4. Your child will learn to respect you

Few things are more problematic in terms of family dynamics than having a partner, mother, or father forget the promises they have made. As a result, other family members lose confidence in that person. If a child gets to show distrust in his or her parent, he or she will be disappointed, become sad, or even angry. Gradually, the bond between the child and the parent fumbles.

Therefore, nothing is as important as keeping the promises you make to a child throughout his or her childhood. Promises, both small and large, must be kept, as it creates security, safety and trust for the child. Later, the child grows into a responsible and happy adult.