It’s Important As A Mother To Live In An Instant

The arrival of a child puts everything in life new. He is our gift, he gives hope and joy, and he is simply the best thing that has ever happened to us. As parents, we also constantly dream of our common future with him.

Sociologists and psychologists often remind us of a problem that is especially a phenomenon of modern society. We are often unable to be present in the present – so we cannot take advantage of the moment that is at hand right now.

We are complex and may be so obsessed with the past that we bother with depression.

We can also focus too much on a future that has  not yet happened. This forces us to get caught up and stuck in an unbearable network of anxiety.

It is not easy to live in the moment, and this is not the case, especially when everything around us is so very demanding and forcing us to set many concrete goals for tomorrow. The environment also reminds us of our past mistakes.

Happiness is in what is here right now. This is something most mothers find out the moment they give birth. And fathers understand this too when they hold their own little one in their arms.

Suddenly something changes. It’s like a music box that opens up and invites a person to stop and think about the beauty of the box and the music. The beauty that a small and perfect child brings and that binds us to the present.

My past is important, but it doesn’t define me – instead, my child determines my core as well as my authenticity as a human being.

Mistakes are permanently written in the past. They remind us of the wrong paths we turned to, but also of the great things we found out. People are made up of stories, small drops of nostalgia and sometimes even large doses of remorse.

Nothing in the past should matter when the first child is born. When the birth is finally true, it lightens the burden of all the mistakes of the past and all those painful memories of relationships that ended badly. It alleviates all the wrong choices we have made.

The child is a blank canvas, a new account, and he removes the pains of the past. He is the force that takes happiness forward and that pushes us toward a better future.

Don’t let yesterday’s burdens determine your present. Sometimes family backgrounds or past wounds associated with a difficult childhood or parental distance scare us parents and new mothers.

• We need to “improve” ourselves in order to be good parents. This is a process that requires time and careful work, but it is still important that this process is carried out.

• Remember,  bad fathers and mothers are the ones who target their own frustrations with their children. They are the parents who are unable to heal their own wounds of the past.

We should try to avoid such harmful dynamics with our own children.

My child fills my present with projects and makes it much more beautiful.

We all know that giving birth and raising a child is no small and easy thing to do. The present moment becomes more complex and intense in a whole new way when you have to figure out why your newborn is crying.

You may even be so exhausted that even endless hours of sleep can’t refresh you. In the midst of all this, you still have the power to breastfeed, soak your baby, take him to the doctor, and make him laugh.

The present moment is sometimes difficult, but its reward is beauty, as it makes you feel wonderful and sometimes even magical. Your present moment with a child is a real kaleidoscope with changing emotions, and these are sometimes very surprising.

You tell yourself that you can’t do everything you should, but you still manage to achieve all of this and more. And it makes you feel extremely proud.

Motherhood and fatherhood are adventures that no one believes they are ready for. However, every day is new, and every moment can appear as a happy child — in that little person who grows up healthy, strong, happy, powerless, and beautiful.

Without fear of the future, I am much stronger.

Fear of tomorrow? Not at all!  Tomorrow is now dressed in dreams, and on it are the colors of hope, and it travels with the power of courage.

You are now a much stronger person – you have found out after your child arrives. Now there are no more fears or uncertainties that would inhabit you.

There are only assurances in your mind – the assurance that you want to give the best to your child. The reassurance that you will face each new day as a person fighting for their goals to provide the best for their family.

The future will no longer scare you, as you live your life intensely and in the present. Create your life day by day and moment by moment in a peaceful and secure universe where you can enjoy your time with your child.

Fear does not lurk in those corners where there is light, energy and vitality. There are no gloomy gaps in your life, and you are now your own engine of hope, as well as your child’s daily source of motivation.