Exhausted And Powerless But Happy
Tired, exhausted, and powerless : that’s how many fathers and mothers feel when they finally get their children to bed. When the children finally fall asleep in a peaceful sleep, this exhaustion suddenly turns into happiness.
Fatigue from daily parenting is different. Even though our bodies seem to be torn in different directions, something inside us makes us feel whole. It gives us strength and more purpose to life than anything else ever before.
This feeling is called well-being. It’s about understanding happiness – how happiness means sharing and creating something new. It is also an awareness of how our children are doing well and how they will grow up healthy and happy, thank us.
Nonetheless, we need to understand that family life will not always be this way. It is important to realize that as children grow up, their behavior changes as well. With this, they need to understand their growing responsibilities and future challenges.
Parenting and raising children require their own language, and we never stop learning new terms. Sometimes we tell ourselves we can’t do everything and can’t stand the day. However, as a miracle trade, we always succeed in it.
Almost unnoticed, we emerge as experts – like giants who see it all over. We anticipate risks and instinct needs. Parenting may not be magic, but it is still a magical time.
The mind is more tired than the body
At the end of the day, we are hugely tired. Our hands, feet, and hearts are aching. We need sleep to recover. What actually causes this fatigue – even though this sounds special – are our brains.
Stress of over-vigilance
Sometimes psychological pressure is much more exhausting than physical exertion. Experts call this the stress of over-vigilance, which is very similar to the stress that soldiers experience in war.
Fathers and mothers both have important responsibilities for their children. They need to be vigilant for all kinds of situations and mediate all kinds of disputes.
At some point, this can become harmful. Life changes and we no longer remember to take care of ourselves. The goal becomes to protect and love its small and fragile creature.
The fear that something bad could happen to him sometimes causes more fear and pain, and this kaleidoscope of emotions creates tremendous anxiety and exhaustion.
Together we are exhausted but immensely happy
Both parents may be working outside the home. They may also have agreed that the other would temporarily take care of the children. Whatever the case, one thing must be clear to both: the upbringing and education of a child is not the job of one person.
Children just don’t have one clear role model. There is nothing more awesome than the feeling of being a part of all stages, participating in all possible tasks.
Saying good nights to your child is the final touch of the day – a magical moment you can experience every night. It is an emotional bond with a child who will not be forgotten and who creates positive memories and well-being.
Finally alone, Finally a two-way time
When we are older for the first time, intimacy can be lost or tested. However, love may still be present, but sometimes a relationship requires more attention.
The moment the kids finally fall asleep is like a dating opportunity for parents. However, exhaustion can take magic away. Present are dark under-eyed eyes, messy hair, old pajamas and toys on the floor.
In spite of everything, we feel happy. It’s that well-being, because of good teamwork.
And that’s the moment when we immerse ourselves in long conversations where we talk about everything – important and real, and also nonsense. The moment we dream of the future, and the moment we hold hands and fall asleep… of course alert if our children need us.
